Thursday, April 30, 2009

Speculations...



There's been a few speculations here and there about why and HOW i lost my Emma Malisa...Truth is, Allah (s.w.t) loves her more, which is why she was taken away from me. There's a reason why we malays say "Ada Hikmah disebalik nye" and why Westerners say "There's a silver lining in between".
I am being strong to believe in the hikmah or the silver lining...

But here and there, people are saying I lost her because of the sexy clothes I wear.....if wearing sexy causes miscarriage, then it is acceptable for one to judge me by saying it...But there is no scientific and medical link to say that the clothes you wear will make your baby suffocate, heart stop, distorted etc...

The reason why people in the years before wear loose dresses, its because that was the ONLY option you have...You either get it long sleeved, short sleeved, three quarter sleeve or sleeveless...But its still the above ankle, below knee dress with a ribbon to tie behind your waist...

Anyway, here's a few links to what we wear will not cause baby's discomfort whatsoever...It may cause discomfort for me, but it certainly wont cause a miscarriage...

From babycenter...
link to babycenter abt stylish clothes during pregnancy

Most pregnant women before avoid wearing sexy clothes probably because they are not comfortable with their body. But thanks to celebrities in Hollywood, and education, people nowadays are accepting their body more evidently. Pregnant women nowadays love showing their bumps. It only shows that they are confident women carrying a baby.







here's a link how well protected is your fetus in your womb...

Be thankful for what you have and stop speculating what others have lost...I would not wish what happened to me to my worse enemy, let alone speculate openly to them about it...Its the worse thing one can do..

37 comments:

miszchaon said...

i agree with u, Dynas...! it's not the clothes u wear that cause the whole thing...There are logical reasons for everything that happens in our lives...be strong, dynas!

tulisan tangan said...

kak dynas,sape la yg ckp psl bju blh jd miscarriage,otak sempit la..
Allah swt lbh sygkn Emma Melisa,cmne kite hambanye ni nk halang..

p/s:tabahkn hati,kuatkn smgt..no worries kak..kami myokong akak dgn doa..

♥ aN_Na ♥ said...

Oh my..
You must really have so many heavy burdens on your shoulders to be carried on now..
I respect the way you handle this.
You're a tough woman just like how you show it to public whether on or off camera!
Like you more!
...and your clothes! ;)

ratna said...

bersabar la. ye.. mesti ada sbb mengapa ALLAH lebih menyayanginya. mesti ada hikmahnya nanti. biarlah apa nak org kata.

Bliss Anne said...

totally nonsense wearing sexy clothes causes the miscarriage...betul2 la fikiran yg sgt cetek.

Y u Z z 9071 said...

salam ziarah..

1st time drop here.

sabar ye dynas...my sister pun pernah mengalaminya..tapi beza sedikit..baby dia meninggal lepas 2 bulan berpantang...

kehilangan tetap dirasai...Tuhan sayangi mereka lebih dari kita...

farah.loren said...

dynas, all the best in what ever you do. it doesnt matter what others think about you. hard times come and go my dear. but the strong one stays !

and one more thing, about the premature baby, spare some time to read about sophie ellis baxtor's premature labour.

then again. all the best & semoga murah rezeki ;)

azrea said...

apa yg doc dah explain and advice itu yg penting. selain dari itu. tolak tepi for now.. u need healthy thoughts for ur own sake, allkay?

been there myself.. but what's important is the faith u have for urself and with Allah. as u said.. ada hikmah disebalik kejadian. insya allah...

+ iNaMoRaTa + said...

kak dynas..
sabar ye..mesti ada hikmah disebaliknya..
be strong..

♥♥cHeNta_tiEha♥♥ said...

sis! be strong.. ignore others.. ganbatte-ne-sis dynas!!

for that person, sile imagine anda berada di tmpt sis..? cetttt.. belagak je kamoo mengutuk sis! ish!
rasalah nt..

Nurul Hidayah Fathy. © said...
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Nurul Hidayah Fathy. © said...

wearing sexy clothes has definitely nothing to do with miscarriage. it's all about sins though for muslims.

saba eg sis!
ALLAH hanye uji hambanye depends on their strength. means ALLAH tahu sis orang yang sangat tough. banyakkan doa kay (:

<3

Leen Die said...

Be strong gurl...abaikan segala tohmahan..ada hikmah disebalik kejadian ini kan....allah lebih sayang arwah emma..nanti klu dynas free jenguk2lah blog akak n ada stau link kat blog akak pasal bb dia yang sakit since lahir sampai bb dia meninggal..betapa strong sangat2 family dia..dahlah jauh dari family kat malaysia n arwah bb dia dikebumikan di gloscow..disitu menunjukkan betapa arwah bb tue kuat melawan penyakit dia..n kata2 ayah dan ibu arwah itu yang jadikan kiter semua ibubapa begitu dekat..http://www.fajaril.net/blog..utk dynas sentiasa sabar k..jangan dengar apa org kata yang bukan2..i know u kuat..

pizet77 said...

salam ziarah...although i dont wear sexy clothes but still i agree with you that sexy clothes is not the reason for your miscarriage....mungkin sudah tertulis yang bukan masanya lagi dynas dapat bb...mungkin next time we wont know that....hanya DIA yang akan tentukan...actually lots of rumours that i heard since you lost your baby...but biasalah bla dah glemer ni mcm2 gosip yang akan timbul...hope you'll be strong....

Iera said...

dynas, bkn bj pnyebabnya..iera pn pernah gugur kandungan jugak, tp iera x pakai seksi pn..jd..apa yg trjadi itu adalah kehendak DIA..

Lieya said...

Mmm biasa laaa Dynas oiiii, manusia tetap manusia. Mane boleh tengok orang lebih sikit lebih2 melayu kite. Opsss ini bukan nak mengata tp inilah hakikat kehidupan melayu kita, "ketam melayu dan ketam cina takkan sama".

Keguguran itu adlh salah 1 kehidupan manusia di mana Allah sentiasa menguji kite dgn pelbagai cara dan di mana Allah menunjukkan kasih sayang kepada umat NYA. Cuma kita je nie yg selalu leka & alpa dan terlalu taksub dgn kata2 jg andaian yg dibuat sendiri.

Banyak2kan bersabar lah yeeee....

Mrs.Nury said...

Hi Dynas...be strong dun bother wat people say k.Insyaallah ada rezeki dpt baby lg

Iezah Azizam said...

Dynas...
byk bersabar ye....
akak pun sama nasib cam Dynas, 5 kali menghadapi keadaan yang sama, baby pun lebih kurang same age like ur daughter... 6 bulan - 5 bulan akan miscarriage...rahim x kuat...

so now Dynas kena jaga kesihatan diri supaya x jd cam akak.... miscarriage camni buat rahim kita x kuat....

Tabah kan hati ye... Semoga Allah memberi rezeki lagi di masa akan datang... insya Allah

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A D I A said...

Dynas dear, I am terribly sorry for your loss. As the others have said beautifully, there's a reason for everything. You might not know of the reasons but believe in your heart that its for the better. Allah has decided it that way for you.

Bila terbaca kisah you, I rasa sebak sangat2. I myself had an Intra Uterine Death (IUD) 3 years ago, at 30 weeks. It's a baby girl, we named her Kyra Amani. I was at your age that time. Its never easy. I do really understand how u feel.

Jangan fikir apa orang kata, of course we know better. Takkan la kita tak jaga. Siapa kata pakaian penyebab tu? Memang fikiran sempit!

Like everything else, time will heal the pain. It'll never go away but believe that you'll be able to remember your daughter.

As for trying for another one, you need to be closely monitored by a specialist/real good doctor.

Belum rezeki saya, sampai sekarang saya belum mengandung lagi.

All the best to you dynas. Take a really good care of yourself. Pantang betul2, nanti senang conceive balik.

sueda said...

Kak Dynas

saya turut bersimpati. Betul tu, ada hikmah di sebalik semua perkara. mana tahu, lepas ni dapat baby kembar...(^^)

-N e Y r A- said...

takziah kak dynas. be strong!

quantum360 said...

Hi Dynas...it's my first time here...i'm sorry to know about your loss....You are a strong girl to be able to talk about this openly...I've had 1 miscarriage and 1 ectopic pregnancy...finally I am now blessed with a beautiful baby girl. I know how it feels like. Don't let anyone put u down. It's not worth it. Decide to be happy and you will! I can give u contact of Pak Ngah, urut traditional (you can refer to Nur Farahin Jamsari's '44 hari bersama nur farahin')if you want to...Take care!

opsiedaisy said...

OPsss the comment above is from my hubby's blog....

Hi Dynas...it's my first time here...i'm sorry to know about your loss....You are a strong girl to be able to talk about this openly...I've had 1 miscarriage and 1 ectopic pregnancy...finally I am now blessed with a beautiful baby girl. I know how it feels like. Don't let anyone put u down. It's not worth it. Decide to be happy and you will! I can give u contact of Pak Ngah, urut traditional (you can refer to Nur Farahin Jamsari's '44 hari bersama nur farahin')if you want to...Take care!

myra said...

kak dynash...lantak la org nak ckp apa ekk...Tuhan ckp jadik jadik la...tak blh dah nak tepis..

Semoga kak dynash berusaha lagik..t.care

:: vErde+hAzizi :: said...

i totally agree with ur post eventhough im not a mommy yet...
after all its the dugaan from the above...
just remember that, DIA hanya akan turunkan dugaan yg DIA tahu kite boley tangani n hadapi ;D
n that girl, what i have been holding till to-date ;D

Aiza Azril said...

Stay strong my dear, I know you will be a great mother one day :)

Nana said...

hye dynas..
sy faham sgt perasaan seorang ibu yg hilang ank y dikandung...kita serupa..

Mel's Closet said...

Who says wearing sexy clothing during pregnancy can cause miscarriage? NONSENSE n it's all myth!

Alhamdulillah, I'm now a mother of 2 healthy and beautiful boys. Was also wearing some sort of fashionable/ tight clothing during my pregnancy.

Dynas, we support you...Hell with what people out there says. Allah loves the baby and you. She'll wait for you at the heaven's door...InsyaAllah!

tiha. said...

it's okay,pls stay strong k.
will always support you

Obefiend said...

dear dynaz

sorry to hear about the miscarriage. i bet it hurts to see all the covers on the magazine with the pic of u prego on the cover

stay strong and just remember your fans will always have your back

stay healthy and try for another one. insyallah you will get the little princess you yearm all this time

be safe and hope to see you on the TV again. its been too long!

cleo weiland said...

I'm very sorry to hear about your baby. But I'm especially proud of how you handled yourself despite the rumours. InsyaAllah you will be a great mom one day, I'm sure He has planned everything for you :)

Take care!

Loser said...

Salam kak Dynas
I'm sorry bout your baby
and bout the clothes and stuff, that's totally nonsense
but maybe what they meant to say was "jangan pakai pakaian yang terlalu seksi. tak sopan untuk ibu yang mengandung" more or less like that.
but whatever it is, Allah has planned everything for you
hope you'll be strong
whatever happens, remember you still got Allah, your family and your fans! :)

ieyla said...

Salam takziah diucapkan...semoga tabah dgn dugaan ini.Mgkin ada hikmah di sebalik apa yg terjadi.Sy faham perasaan akak coz sy pun pernah mengalaminya ketika pregnant anak sulung dulu...yg bezanya baby sy boy & hanya hdp 6jam saja slpas itu dijemput yg ESA....sedih t'amat sgt tp kt kena redha!Insyaallah akan dikurniakan zuriat lg...Byk2kan sabar & ingat Allah s.w.t sentiasa....

Mohd Ahmad Ferk said...

harap anda bersabar..
insyaAllah lepas ni ade rezeki lagi..
mane tau dapat twins ke lepas nie..
;)

katak_78 said...

Dnas...be patience kay..Allah sentiasa berada bersama org yg sentiasa bersyukur dgn apa yg dia kurnia n duga...at least u dah rasa ada baby dlm perut..unlike me....hmmmm

rynn2506 said...

hi, sory walaupon tlambat nak komen...ttp nak komen gak...semoga dynas tabah menghadapi dugaan dariNya...usah peduli ape kata org..yg penting Allah SWT tahu tentang tiap² kejadian itu...kite juga alami perkara yg sama tahun lepas...dan kite lebih suka menganggapnya sbg Ade hikmah di sebalik setiap kejadian...tabah selalu...sudilah singgah ke blog saya jika ade kelapangan...

cheers,
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Suka Bebel said...

Al-Fatihah buat Emma Malisa...but for sure, she's waiting for u and ur husband in heaven. Syukur dynaz punya semangat yang kuat, semoga dimurahkan rezeki untuk dapatkan adik buat arwah.hehe

sebenarnya kita senasib. my wife pun deliver tak cukup bulan dalam bulan 5 ari tu, twins pulak lagi. umur diorang baru genap 6 bulkan dalam kandungan. masa tu saya tak tahu nak kata apa, memang tak terkata apa dan tak sempat nak fikir apa yang sedang saya lalui masa tu. alhamdulillah, sekarang ni my wife dah pregnant lagi. dah masuk 2 bulan. dengar cerita dynaz pun dah pregnant lagi.semoga rezeki kita dipermudahkan kali ini.amin...